With Mother’s Day coming up this Sunday, many people are scurrying around to get a beautiful card for their mother and a nice gift. And while it’s the thought that counts, it’s too bad so many people will miss the mark with the gift they choose for their mother this year. There are usually three reasons people choose the wrong Mother’s Day gift (sometimes they do this year after year). Here they are:
#1 They choose a gift they “think” their mother will want.
All moms want flowers or candy for Mother’s Day, right? Well, not really. Yet this is what many people think since candy and flowers are typical Mother’s Day gifts. But consider your mother’s interests and tastes when choosing her gift this year. Maybe she is trying to stop eating sweets, or at least limit them right now, and a big box of chocolates will be hard to resist. Or, perhaps she’d rather have a potted plant she can keep for years rather than some beautiful cut flowers that will quickly fade and have to be thrown out. OR – the reverse could be true. Maybe she doesn’t want a potted plant she will have to care for. The point is, don’t simply give your mother something you “think” she will want.
#2 They choose a gift they “want” their mother to want.
I (Suzanne) have two brothers and I notice one of my brothers doing this all the time. He buys my mother something he wants her to have, not necessarily something she wants. Then, to make matters worse, he tells her, “Don’t get rid of this. I want you to have it.” And since the gifts he gives her are usually pretty lavish (a.k.a. expensive), she doesn’t dare give his gifts away or sell them, even though many times he gives her something huge (that takes up way too much room in her home) or something she never uses (a huge juicer with many parts that would have to be cleaned each time the juicer was used comes to mind – she’s never used it).
#3 They don’t take the time to find out what their mother really wants.
The reason people tend to give their mother gifts they think she should want or gifts they want her to want is usually because they don’t take the time to find out what their mother really wants. And sometimes what a mother really wants isn’t expensive or lavish, so children think a small, inexpensive gift isn’t good enough to give their mom, so they insist on spending more money on something she doesn’t really want. Go figure…
Before you choose a gift for your mother this Mother’s Day, find out what she really wants. Let go of any notions of what you think she should want. Also, try to let go of the desire to give your mother something you want her to want.
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